Be Specific

Going back to the idea of goals and what you (or I) would do if you knew you would not fail, I think where I and maybe you become tripped up is, we are not specific enough.

I always like to joke and tell people that when I suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury years ago, I had been asking for some time off, a new hairstyle and to lose weight. I should have been specific in my request and stated – but not at the expense of a life threatening injury. Right?

When I went to college I knew I wanted to earn my degree, That was a goal I had in mind. But to get to that goal I had to pass certain classes. And in order to pass those classes I had to complete assignments. And in order to complete those assignments sometimes I had to do research and that could mean going to the library or otherwise gathering information.

You see how this works out right?

We can set goals for what we want to achieve for ourselves, but if we don’t break down the steps and concentrate on the beginning, on the details, we are highly unlikely to achieve those goals.

And I want all of us to achieve our goals.

Not really off topic but, I am currently reading, Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by: James Clear.

I am actually listening to the book on Audible. Atomic Habits is likely one of the best books I have encountered in my lifetime. Check it out and see for your self.

I plan on writing more about the book, how it is resonating with me, and my progress implementing the steps outlined in the book at a later date.

And remember, It’s a Journey not a destination.

Breaking down the Blockers

My previous post was about Blockers.

Today we begin the work of acknowledging these blockers and start designing a plan to break through these blockers.

The first step is acknowledgement. Read that again. Acknowledgment.

I believe if we don’t look that black hole of an abyss, that blocker, straight on, then how can we ever have a chance at reaching any goals we set for ourselves? It is as simple as that. The beginning is at any rate.

Let’s say, as an example, that you have been thinking about finishing your college degree, but something is blocking you from even starting that process. Or perhaps it’s an entire herd of some things. I mean like, maybe they are all congregated into one gigantic pile of stuff and you can’t even separate them to sort them out to begin with. Hey, I have been there, and it is tough. It can feel like there is a mountain in front of you and you don’t even know where to begin the climb because all you can see is that peak way up in the clouds. And it looks like a rough hike up a treacherous trail to the land of unknowns.

Time for some hard truths.

So here is the nitty gritty truth. There are no guarantees. None. We all have a finite time on this earth and no one has the inside edge to know when their time will be up. And you say to me, hey why did you put that in here, I thought we were talking about blockers? because I want you to know, just as I know, that no matter how we plan our paths, that no matter what we do, success is not a given. I wish I could sprinkle some fairy dust on you and all your dreams would become your wished for reality, but that is not how this works.

How it works is to first acknowledge that there is something blocking the path.

Second, we take baby steps towards figuring out how to go around, go through, or go over that something.

Because the only sure thing we have in this life is, we will never succeed if we do not try.

So my challenge to you is, grab some paper and write some of your goals, or your wishes, or whatever you choose to call them. Then stare at those words written on that page and become really familiar with them. Put the list in your pocket and take it out when you can. Maybe add some more and take some off the list.

We will touch on whether they are really your goals, or your wishes, or what you think you should do in a future post.

Remember, dear readers, it’s a journey, not a destination.